NAMBIAR GURUJI Speaks on self - dependency

Had we ever analysed on to what extend are we dependent or independent in our course of life.Ofcourse at childhood we are dependent and once careerlife starts how much are we depend on others.Though we are depending on many on day to day activities right from the drivers to vegetable vendors to doctors and IT personnels,but when does self dependency starts and end?

Earlier days there was a life cycle or say a living cycle.ie depend on parents during childhood,then comes the stage of self dependency while adults and after dependent on ones children.Due to changes in life style,accesibility for a quality life,and ever changing tastes & preferances has bought changes in the dependency factor. The growing gap between generations had made this more.In todays situation we have to think on how much worth is to depend on ones children throughout the life time.Every generation moves soo fast that its too tough to keep up a pace with the changing ideas, attitudes, behaviours and tastes.So a parent cannot run parellely with the new generations who makes them outdated at every instance.Also the changing lifestyles and situations makes generations to have a different look at their parents.

Once upon a time parents where guides to their children who would hold the hand and help to realize the life and its means.In todays scenerio of information overflow,parents as guide to life and future is minimised.And as quoted by Gibran in his book prophet '

"For their souls dwell in the house of tomorrow, which you cannot visit, not even in your dreams.You may strive to be like them, but seek not to make them like you.For life goes not backward nor tarries with yesterday."

When parents start pull down their childrens to think like them strangled relations starts.

So question arises,should we depend on our childrens for our tommorrow.To arrive at the answer lets look into something in general.Will children be same when they grow old,will they show the same love and emotions.Can their parents adjust to the fast changing culture,technology,ways of living, their children's adopt. The final question will they take care of you when you are old?

Even the die hard optimistic will doubt in answering a positive reply for these questions. In these situations what can a parent or an individual can do the best? Not to expect any thing from their children.As a parent the duty ceases till education is given to the extend that his child can chose between right and wrong.Moreover a parent cannot be held responsible for the way their children lives.To summerise the relationship between a parent and children starts from the birth process till making him to chose his way of life.

And that makes a man to be depend on self till his death ! Hence the final question arise

still the purpose of marriage and running a family is revelevent ?